If you have a little time...

When I work at the boutique in Soho, I have a lot of down time. This is what has stood out to me today. Seriously, click on any of these links-at least the sleep walking dog. You won't be sorry. 

Bizkit the sleep walking dog

So do you still want to date a banker?

The Daily Show

I'm just NOT into this movie

I went to see "He's just not into you" last Friday. And I Hated it. That's right, hate, with a capital H. The two people I went to see it hated it too, though we are all in different relationship situations-single and dating, deep into a relationship that is breaking up, to married with a child. I couldn't figure out why I hated it so much. I think it's because I couldn't decide whether I bought into the premise or not. (plus there was the bad acting, too many sub-plots, etc, but that's not really the point of this post) I found this review about it online that I liked a lot. (fyi, there are some words that might offend some)

http://www.pajiba.com/hes-just-not-that-into-you-review.htm

What I finally got to thinking is that unless you do really psycho desperate stuff (some of which the girls in the movie did, and some people do in real life), I don't think it really matters what we do or don't do. If two people like each other, it works. If that "thing" is there, it's there, if not then it isn't. i don't like the way the book makes it seem like there are such exact rules. There may be for some people, but i don't really think all guys we are dealing with are that traditional. I'm so tired of analyzing texts and phone calls and phrases that people say in passing. There is a chance I may be delusional, but I really think for the modern world, in which many of us are attempting to not let traditions of the past unecessarily hold us captive, it's impossible to simplify things that much. I am going to stop thinking in such terms as "the girl does this" and "the guy does this," and try to attempt to relate to guys as if we are both people. Crazy? Maybe. I'll let you know...

Feminist art at the Brooklyn Museum

Yesterday Kelerie and I went to the Brooklyn museum. I have been wanting to go there for awhile. They have a fantastic feminist art exhibition that I totally loved. The big one that I had really been wanting to see was called "the Dinner Party." It has names and place settings of women throughout history for those who have been forgotten as well as symbollic imagery on the place settings, and names of women all over the floor as well. There was also an exhibit from Ghada Amer, an artist from Egypt, whose art was provoking and fascinating.

Reinventing myself

I was in a room full of people recently when I realized that I don't think any of them know me very well. I don't really blame them for this, I blame me. And really, I just met half of them, so partly, I think I was just new. But I think often we edit ourselves somewhat, in order to create a persona that we think will be more acceptable in certain settings. In reality, we hide what we can really connect to others about. The people I really respect and admire in my life are the people who are truly themselves-whatever the consequences. They aren't always tactful, or even nice, (although they usually are). These are people I can relate to.

Last night it was announced that two people in the room were the biggest feminists in the room. One of them even happened to be male! What? I thought. This is a topic that I actually care deeply about and spend quite a bit of time reading and discussing. But of course, I couldn't vie for a position as one of the biggest feminists in the room because a) it's not really a contest b) that would be stupid c) no one even knew my views at all. Because I have kept them quiet, thinking that no one else thinks like me. Which is obviously not the case.

So I pose these questions to you: Do you edit yourself, reinvent yourself a bit for others at times? Or is it just me and the vastly different worlds I live in, Mormon activities, and hanging out with more worldly flight attendants? Or if you don't, is it because you naturally fit into one group more easily, or are just comfortable standing out alone or with others?

While attempting to edit this blog for mass market appeal-(okay really the three people who I know read this blog regularly), I have often made it boring and appeal to no one, including myself. So I announce I am a feminist. (since I didn't last night) and I plan to have more interesting topics on this blog. So there.