I went to see "He's just not into you" last Friday. And I Hated it. That's right, hate, with a capital H. The two people I went to see it hated it too, though we are all in different relationship situations-single and dating, deep into a relationship that is breaking up, to married with a child. I couldn't figure out why I hated it so much. I think it's because I couldn't decide whether I bought into the premise or not. (plus there was the bad acting, too many sub-plots, etc, but that's not really the point of this post) I found this review about it online that I liked a lot. (fyi, there are some words that might offend some)
http://www.pajiba.com/hes-just-not-that-into-you-review.htm
What I finally got to thinking is that unless you do really psycho desperate stuff (some of which the girls in the movie did, and some people do in real life), I don't think it really matters what we do or don't do. If two people like each other, it works. If that "thing" is there, it's there, if not then it isn't. i don't like the way the book makes it seem like there are such exact rules. There may be for some people, but i don't really think all guys we are dealing with are that traditional. I'm so tired of analyzing texts and phone calls and phrases that people say in passing. There is a chance I may be delusional, but I really think for the modern world, in which many of us are attempting to not let traditions of the past unecessarily hold us captive, it's impossible to simplify things that much. I am going to stop thinking in such terms as "the girl does this" and "the guy does this," and try to attempt to relate to guys as if we are both people. Crazy? Maybe. I'll let you know...
2 comments:
Girl, I know! I saw it, and haven't been able to muster up the energy to write a scathing review yet. Plus, the damage that its rules almost inflicted on my very own budding "relationship" was almost irreversible. F the rules. Yay for communication and relating to each other!
Hey, I just rediscovered your blog. . .I'm a techno idiot like that. I dont even belong to Face book! Anyway, I dropped my phone in the toilet at the MET in December (disgusting I know~) so I don't have your phone number anymore. We need to hang out again! So call me. Its been too long and I am in New York a lot more now.
Oh, and I never even bothered watching that movie! I do have to say this though, that book has helped out many of my friends to stop chasing guys that are not interested in them. . . They wouldn't listen to me but they listened to the book. . . go figure. . . .
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